To Spank Or Not To Spank?? That Is The Question.
As a Mexican-American born into this country and raised by immigrant parents, I was spanked. I never considered dialing 911 and never considered myself abused. I knew that I deserved every one of those spankings.
As a parent, I have used corporal punishment in my home. I believe any responsible parent must teach their children that bad behavior brings consequences. Because of the consistency of this teaching, I have found that I have very rarely had to resort to spanking my children. As a result, I have very well mannered, respectful children and as they get older, their punishment change. Now at ages 11 and 6, spankings are not as effective and one must improvise.
But I get so frustrated when I come upon articles like the following: Spanking Linked to Anxiety, Aggression. In this study, 336 women from 5 different countries were surveyed. Their children ranged from ages 6 to 17.
Of course there is going to be anxiety and aggression when you’re spanking a teenager!!
Then I read the following opinions of so-called “experts” that really tick me off: Dr. Steven Parker said the following, which I totally disagree with:
What he is referring to is abuse, not discipline. For God's sake, if you're that pissed with your kid, have a martini and chill...
"Finally, spanking is often nothing more than a parental temper tantrum: You made me mad and you're going to pay the price. In that case, spanking usually has more to do with vengeance than instruction. ."