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Friday, November 11, 2005

Motherhood and Dating

As a single mother of two children, ages 11 and 6, one is left to wonder when the right time to date is, what should be shared with the children and the moral dilemma of bringing someone else into the family dynamic.

In surfing the net the other day, I came across an advertisement for an interesting book. Well, at least the title caught my attention: "Mom, There's a Man in the Kitchen and He's Wearing Your Robe" The Single Mom's Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly by Ellie Slott Fisher.

The description of the book reads like this:
"Embarking on the dating scene can be a fun though sometimes daunting prospect for any single woman. But for the more than 10 million single women in the U.S. with children at home, dating is a much more complicated matter. Whether uncoupled through divorce or death, single moms face a wide range of questions: When will I be ready to date and how do I start? When-and what-should I tell the kids? What happens if I love the guy and the kids hate him? In Mom, There's a Man in the Kitchen and He's Wearing Your Robe, Ellie Slott Fisher, a once-widowed, once-divorced single mother of two, speaks with refreshing candor about balancing dating and parenting. Drawing upon her own experience, the stories of many other women, and the advice of family psychologists, Fisher offers encouragement, strategies, and a healthy dose of humor for the single-but-looking mom-from how to meet men in the first place to when to introduce your date to the kids, from when and where to work sex into the equation to how to talk to your dating teenagers without looking like a hypocrite. Practical, funny, and hopeful, this is the one guide single moms need before jumping into the murky waters of the dating pool."

I have always thought the honesty is always the best approach. Of course, leaving out gratuitous information...I think I'm going to have to get a copy of the book.



At Saturday, November 12, 2005 4:29:00 PM, Blogger Amy said...

Once I watched Dr. Phil berate a single mom on his show who had had a couple of 1-2 year relationships. He argued that she should not let her son even meet the man she dates until she is certain that the guy is in it for the long haul. It was so unreasonable. He had so little understanding or empathy for the lives of single moms. It really pissed me off.


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