More Spank Talk
My sense is that a person's feelings about spanking are profoundly informed by one's own experience as a child. I got spanked plenty by my dad, who had some major anger issues. Coming from him, spanking truly was a parental temper tantrum, and the message was definitely "You made me mad and you're going to pay the price." Punishment often involved humiliation; typically, we had to pull down our pants and offer up our bare asses. This was NOT COOL, especially when our butts were exposed to oncoming traffic and my older sister was approaching puberty.
For me, spanking was rolled up with shame, hatred, and broken trust, so I've avoided using it. However, I know I have a breaking point, just like everyone else, and an impulse to swat when my boy is being defiantly bad and nothing else is working. There are many parenting years ahead of me, so I can never say never to spanking. But for now, I'm sparin' the rod.